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Do you have someone in your life who always seems to be there for you? You never need to ask for help – they just sense when you need it. Twos have a natural ability to tune in to the needs and wants of their friends, family members, co-workers and even strangers. Taking care of their own needs, however, is usually delayed or even ignored.
Like their neighbor, the Reformers, the Helper’s energy is practically boundless — not with the effort of improving things — but when they are in service to someone else. This gift of caring, when it becomes the Two’s identity develops into the Passion of Pride that can be difficult to see and difficult to mask.
The Helper’s Social Role – how they appear in the world – is that of “The Special Friend”. They thrive on the intimacy of a relationship that makes them feel needed and valued.
Each personality type has a Wing on either side. Through self observation you can begin to notice which of your Wings is dominant. Your dominant Wing influences the flavor and energy of your Type. The Helper will be influenced by Type One, the Reformer or by Type Three, the Achiever. Some people report being affected equally by both Wings and some people report not being affected by either. Both of these cases are rare. We do, however, find that a person’s Wing can shift at different times in life.
Our personality, no matter the type, does not remain static. Our patterns of behavior do change, somewhat dramatically, when we are in growth or under stress.
Under Stress, which is often caused by feeling unappreciated, Twos will “move” to average Type Eight, the Challenger, where they make their needs very clear indeed and can lash out strongly. They are no longer the soft, endearing friend, but a voice to be reckoned with! This stress point can also be a doorway to self-understanding.
In Growth, Twos move in a different direction, toward a high functioning Type Four, the Individualist. They tune in to their own inner world of feelings and recognize their needs as legitimate and worth pursuing.
There is much more to know about Helpers. I hope you will continue to explore…